More Effort, Better Results

Today's blog is different. It's an observation that I made yesterday evening while at a particular function. Before you read this, please take note that I'm not speaking to anyone or OF anyone in particular, just stating my feelings on the subject, based on what I observed. That being said, I'll jump right into it.

We all know that we live in a society where everything has to be fast paced, now, drive thru, quick fix, the most convenient, easiest path, less work, less effort, kind of deal. We all want to get in and out of lines quickly, park closest to the door so there's less walking, go to self checkouts for faster service, put less work in a day with the same pay. There's nothing wrong with any of that, hey I like conveience as well as the next person. But yesterday I observed the same being done with human to human interactions.

I was in a fairly large crowd of people, just watching them as they went about their routines (I love to watch people, they fascinate me) and I noticed a common thread over the next several hours. I saw two women sitting side by side. I'm not sure if they were friends or just happened to be sitting next to each other by chance. One woman was very classy, pretty, great hair and very nice clothes. She was the kind of woman that you would think got attention from everyone. She certainly stood out to me. The woman next to her was pretty as well, but in a different sort of way. She was dressed very provocatively, showing her assests off very well. She had a pretty figure but she was showing everyone what she had. I noticed her behavior too. She was very touchy-feely with men when they walked past, hugging and sitting on their laps. She seemed to know them pretty well, or maybe wanted to and the men were taken by her.

During all of this, the classy lady sat there and interacted with people that talked to her. She was calm, kind of quiet and reserved. She got no attention, while the other lady, who was wearing almost nothing and had bleached blonde hair (don't get mad, I too have bleached hair, lol) was commanding all of the attention from men. I watched them as much as I could without being spotted by either of them and I started to wonder.

Do men want the easy route? Do they want a woman who requires less work? A fast, get it now, drive thru kind of gal that they don't have to put any effort into?

Based on my observations, the answer is an astounding YES! From what I saw, the woman who looked cheap (God forgive me for saying that) was getting looks from EVERY man that came in. They were interacting with her, while the normal looking lady sat there and watied for her appointment. I got to thinking. Isn't it sad that even in dating, men want a quick fix. I know that I'm not uncovering a well kept secret, nor am I discovering a thing that will cause life to change or the world to be saved. LOL But this is all new for me. I don't date, at all. It's been more than a year since I've seen anyone and he was a friend that I went out with for a couple of months. So this, to me IS a new experience. I guess I really hadn't paid attention before, and maybe won't again. But yesterday, it just struck me as sad. I almost felt bad for the classy lady who obviously keeps herself up really well, but it apparantly does her no good. She sure wasn't getting any looks or conversations. The cheaper woman was commanding all of the attention. Now I do NOT know if the cheaper looking woman offers it free and maybe they knew that, nor do I know anything about the classy lady. These were two individuals who were sitting side by side while I waited for my turn and I noticed them and the men who entered the building and it made me ponder the subject (as granny would say).

I don't want to think that to gain a man's attention, we as women have to sacrifice our morals, our humiltiy, or our ability to be a respectable person. I don't want to think I have to wear barely there clothing to get someone to look at me. I want a man to be interested in me because I'm a nice person, because I have so much to offer in the way of conversation and because I'm interesting. The other stuff fades, and when it does, you'd better have someting in your head and heart that you can share with someone else.

I didn't mean to ramble on, nor judge either of these women in any way, because number one, I never want to judge anyone. I've been the target of judgement for many, many years and so I do NOT want to heap that on anyone else, it's hurtful. And number two, I don't know them personally, so how can I say what one will do and the other won't. But we all base our opinions on what we see. And my opinion yesterday was that men like the convenient, no work, less effort kind of gal that the blonde seemed to be, and it made me sad as a woman.

If I have to put myself out there in little clothing, sit on laps, hug and kiss them on the cheek and act silly to get a man's attention, then I'd rather stay to myself and alone. I want to be appreciated for my mind, my strength, my ability to discuss important topics and such.

I know this wasn't my normal blog, but I hope that you found something interesting in it. If you are a woman reading this, please note that your mind and heart will get you further than your body ever will. And if you are a man reading this, please note that the woman who is dressed well, sitting there quietly might just be interesting, take time to know her as well. Don't be a fast, less effort kind of guy who doesn't want to work for anything. The best paydays come from a month's wort

h of hard work.

Remember to work hard and Dream Big!!

Much love,

Christy