Fairy Tales!!

I don't normally do fairy tales. They're not my style. I try my best to live in the real world and not fantasize about love and happy endings.

From my experience, there are no happy endings in love. I've seen too much heartache in my life to ever really fall for what the movies and songs tell us.

Do I believe it's possible to feel it? Yes. Because I have.

Do I believe that it works out. NO. I don't. Not for anyone.

I believe that two people can stay together for many years, but I don't believe they keep that rosey glow, butterfly in the stomach, mushy kind of feeling forever. I believe it all dies, and then those two people are left to try and figure out what to do with each other.

Am I cynical? If I cursed, this is where I'd insert a big hell ya!! But since I don't, I'll just say "yes, I'm cynical".

I was in love once and it turned into a crap storm right in front of me. I've watched others around me fall in love and end up hating each other. They make a promise to stay together forever, only to find themselves on opposites sides of a table in an attorney's office dividing things they'd once went out and bought together. They fight over their children, their money, cars, houses, everything. They just fight. In the end, they wind up hating the sight of the other.

I have seen it happen many times over. I've seen love die between two people who were supposed to be the prime example of love. I've seen a man of God leave his wife and family for someone else. Now if that doesn't speak for what love is or isn't, what does?

In my book there is no such thing as love. It's all a big fat fairy tale told to sell little girls an idea how life is supposed to be. I say we need to start telling little girls how it really is. That YOU are the only one you can count on. That late at night, when there is no one, you still have yourself. That you CAN take care of yourself and be a strong, indpendent woman. I say it's time to show girls how to be what they want in life and not settle for some story they read in a book when they were five.

I know that God loves us. But He's different. He's the ONLY one who won't leave. He's the ONLY one you can count one.

There are two men right now who call me and text me and want me to go out with them. Ha ha. Not this girl, not anymore. I won't devote another minute to that elusive emotion that doens't exisit. I won't allow myself to get caught up in something that runs faster than cheap mascara in a rainstorm.

I WILL, however, spend my time working on my books, my career, my company and myself. I will spend my time making my life what I want it to be. If someone happens along that I'm fond of, then so be it, but I can guarantee you he will never possess my heart.

My heart belongs to me and my work. My career is my number one priority. Moving ahead and seeing my dreams come true is all that I'm focused on now. Love is just a word. It means nothing. Ask anyone who's been hurt.

Ladies, don't waste your life on a man who won't return to you what you invested in him. Spend your life making your dreams come true. Spend your life living for what you want. Get an education, find your passion and then conquer the world. I promise, it's the only thing that will be there when he walks away.

As I said yesterday, today is a hard day for me. Maybe that is where this blog and these feelings are coming from, I don't know. But I do know that love will frig you over every chance it gets.

Now this won't be my most popular blog, especially among women here in my area who are raised to serve men and believe that they should hold some kind of superiority over them. But that's alright, we're all entitled to our opinions. I used to be the same way. I treated my last boyfriend like a king and where did it get me? Abused, that's where. So I'm done. I'd rather be an independent woman who needs no one, than the meely mouthed little waif I used to be when he was mean to me. Man, if he could see me now. I've finally got the balls to stand up to him. LOL I"m sure he wouldn't like me!

Anyway, these are my feelings on the subject of love and fairy tales. You may agree or disagree, that's fine. But I hope you protect your hearts, because in the end, no man will.

Remember to work hard and Dream Big!!

Much love,

Christy