Be Who You ARE!!

I was going to blog about something else entirely, but I feel that this is important, so here goes.

As I was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed, I saw a post written by a young mother explaining that her 12-year-old son is hyper and just wants to be loved by others. She spoke of how he cries because his peers push him away and how even some family members do the same.

My heart broke when I read it because she is a young mother and still a bit innocent herself. She hasn't quite mastered the art of telling people to go #%%@ themselves when she gets hurt. So she can't really teach him how to feel the same yet. LOL

When I say that, I don't mean that I would want her teaching him to be mean, but rather teach him how to accept himself for who he is and go on.

I spent the majority of my life trying to be who others wanted me to be. I spent my twenties trying to be who my pastor said we should be as Christians, (like he even had a clue, lol). I spent my thirties trying to be who society expected me to be. I was called "Barbie" by my friends because I had a pretty figure and blonde hair, and so I spent each day trying to live up to that image they created. I also spent those years trying to be the mother that my mom told me to be when she didn't have an idea about what being a mother was. Not being mean, just telling the truth. I spent years trying to be a wife to a man who clearly had no interest in me whatsoever. And after my divorce, I wasted five more years trying to be what my abuser wanted me to be.

So it stands to reason that I'm now worn out. LOL.

And it stands to reason that, at almost 49 years old, I've come to the place where I can honestly say that I'm happy with who Christy Adams is. It was only after I got away from all the noise and voices telling me who I should be, that I figured out who I am.

And guess what? I like who I am.

I was telling my friend Angie one day last week, that if you like who you are, then you don't mind being alone. I think that's why I now cherish my alone time. I really love me!!

You have to accept who you are. God made us all individuals. Different from each other for a reason. So you have to embrace who you are. Embrace your weirdness, your quirks, your differences. Believe me, they come in handy later in life when you have found your calling, especially if it's being creative. LOL

Take Jim Carrey and the late Robin Williams for instance. If those two had conformed to what the world considers "normal", then we would have been cheated out of some great performances. Be who you are, who YOU were meant to be.

Teach your children that they are perfect, no matter what. Teach them that if someone else doesn't see their value, then the problem lies within that person and not in your child. Teach them NOW, while they are young, so that when they get older they will have a firm grasp of themselves and they won't be led astray be anyone or any belief. Give them the solid foundation of self-worth so they will appreciate who they are all along and won't spend years trying to find and accept themselves later in life.

It's one of the most valuable things you can give a child or anyone for that matter. But the younger you start, the better the life they will live.

I'm now a VERY strong willed, independent woman. Some like me and some don't.

Guess what? I don't give a rats about the ones who don't. LOL

I have a firm grasp on who I am and I am content.

Give this gift to your children and grandchilren. Speak affirmations over them each day so that when they are grown, they can do the same for the next generation.

Side note: Prayers will be appreciated this week as I travel starting tomorrow. First to North Carolina to take care of some business. And then off to an undisclosed location for a few days to do a photo shoot. I'm very excited to say the least. Life is wonderful.

Remember to work hard and Dream Big!!

Much love,

Christy