Emotional Posting!!

If I ask any one of you to define emotional posting, I bet you'd all come close to giving me a correct answer. I've tried to find it online and it although that specific term doesn't exist, we all can still figure out what it basically means.

I saw someone's post on Facebook this afternoon and it got me thinking about all of this. My friend was hurting and I knew that he just needed to vent and that when he did, he would feel better.

After some thought, I came up with the term "emotional posting".

We've all heard of emotional eating, where someone consumes food in response to feelings instead of hunger. Emotional eating can be triggered by many things that the individual is going through, such as a breakup, divorce, death of a loved one or pet, etc. And it leads to stuffing themselves with an amount of food that they normally wouldn't consume in one sit down.

I drew a correlation between the two today as I thought more about my friend.

I would describe emotional posting as putting something dealing with a personal nature out on social media that you normally wouldn't post on any given day. It's usually triggered by anger, hurt, fear or any emotion that can also trigger emotional eating.

I've been guilty MANY times of emotional posting, as have you, and though it feels good at the very moment we're doing it, it usually only leads to more trouble.

I've put things out in anger, hurt and pain that has been directed at individuals, groups and even friends, at times. And all it did was cause either more people to jump on the bandwagon, commenting their thoughts and getting arguments started or people feeling angry back at me and sending me private messages.

Anyway, I've tried to learn from my mistake of emotional posting and cut back. And I've found it difficult, but not impossible. LOL

Take today, for instance, I started three times to post something on my Facebook wall, but I ended up discarding it before I hit "post".

I have tried to adopt the practice of looking at my words BEFORE I hit post now. It's working, but I can still feel my emotions wanting to go at it and hit send. LOL.

I've tried lately to take whatever it is that has upset me and talk to myself, saying that God will handle it and work it out for my good. And it really works. When I put my trust in Him that He will avenge me, it's far better for me in the long run, than when I take those few minutes to "blast" someone on Facebook. That only works for a time and feels good to my flesh. Whereas, when I let God have it, it takes the pressure off of me to want to fix it myself.

But isn't that what we have to do to overcome emotional eating as well?

We may get upset about something, go into the kitchen, pick up a candy bar and bag of chips and sit down to stuff ourselves to take away the pain. But we have to consciously make the decision to stop doing that because it's unhealthy and it leads to more overeating which leads to health problems.

I'm not going to pretend that I don't emotionally eat because I do. I have the fat to prove it. LOL. But I am a work in progress and one day I hope to kick the habit, (but today ain't that day, lol).

I am, however, trying my best to stop putting emotional posts on social media because it really does nothing except stir up strife and we all know how God feels about that. Proverbs 29:22 tells us that "an angry man stirs up strife". I have a feeling that makes God sad and I don't want to do that to Him. He's been so nice to me and I want Him to be happy with me.

So the next time that you want to post out of anger or hurt, think about it like I am doing, and hopefully, you'll change your mind.

Does this mean that I'll be perfect from now on and not do it? LOL

Hardly, I know me and I'm a hot head sometimes. True story. But it just means that at least I'm trying and you can too. I tend to bare my soul on any forum on which I write and that's okay. I just want to think before I post.

I saw a meme on my friend's timeline that said: "Think once before you act, twice before you speak and three times before you post".

I LOVE that because it's so true.

Did you know that potential employers look at your social media and if you're still in school, coaches and faculty members look at your posts too? It gives them an insight into who you are before they even meet you.

What we say not only follows us but precedes us as well. Make what you say count. Say good things, post good things and try to stay away from emotional posting. Some of my favorite things to see each day on my newsfeed are recipes, vacation photos, prom pics, and things of that nature. Positive things. I know I've been a bad example of negativity on Facebook but I'm trying my best to change that because whatever we put out, we get back. Everything in life is a boomerang. Whatever you throw out, WILL come back to you. I've experienced it firsthand. So throw out good stuff.

On my blog each day, I've been guilty of putting ALL of my emotions out there. From still feeling like I was in love with an ex, LOL to talking about my domestic violence and suicidal thoughts. But I know that each day I receive messages from people who are helped by my blogs. And as long as I keep them positive, then I don't care to bare my soul to you. If I can help even one person that day, then it's worth it to let you see inside my life and heart. We are all the same. We all feel the same emotions and have the same desires, so let's use our experiences to help each other.

I hope I've said something that's helped you and not just rambled on and on. LOL. I love you all dearly and my goal in life is to help others.

Message me if you need a friend. I'm always here to talk and try to help. I'm so glad that I was able to help someone get out of an abusive relationship a while back. She told me that she got courage from our talks to leave and start over. That made my heart smile, and caused me to realize that my personal battles have been worth it.

Remember to work hard and Dream Big!!

Much love,

Christy