Consider The Source!!

This blog might have you thinking that it's going to be negative, but I promise you by the time you're finished reading it, you'll see the positive side of it.

I would wager money that every one of us has heard the saying, "consider the source". And I would also wager most of us have uttered it in our lifetime at some point. It's one of the truest phrases by which to live your life. Let me tell you that if you don't incorporate this phrase into your mindset, then you'll get upset over every little thing that every little person says. True story.

I used to get upset when people said things about me. I would cry and get my feelings all torn up. I would get depressed and worry about what I could do to try and fix it all, even though someone else had hurt me. I was a mess back then.

BUT, something happened and it all changed.

Life, I think they call it.

I grew older and grew up and realized that others opinions of me don't make me or break me. What others say about me doesn't change the fact of what's going on in my life. Their words don't add to or take away my blessings.

Proverbs 29:25 says: "the fear of man bringeth a snare", meaning that if you care about what others think of you all of the time, then you'll get caught up in that and forget about what God thinks of you. Also, Galatians 1:10 tells us: "do I seek to please men? for if I pleased men, I should not be the servant of God".

Even God tells us not to try and please others.

Now, after all that, you might be wondering when is the phrase, "consider the source" going to be mentioned. LOL. I'll tell you.

For the last few months, I've battled some problems coming out of my friendships with certain people. These were people that I honestly felt loved me as a friend. These were people I felt would be there to cheer me on as I was beginning to live my dream.

And at first, they did. They said all of the right things and posted all of the right comments on my page, but something happened to them. A green-eyed monster reared his ugly head. Jealousy crept in and settled where it shouldn't have and they let it take up residence like a long lost relative. Instead of seeing it for what it was, they accepted it, agreed with it and let it stay. Then they turned on me, calling me names to their friends, saying all manner of put-downs they could think of to other people, but NEVER coming to me directly.

Did I like it? Not really and neither would you. But what did I do about it? I let it all go. And that was hard. My friend asked me what I was going to do upon hearing some things, and all I said was, "consider the source" and laughed. Now mind you, in my heart, I was hurting, but I tried my best to not allow it to get to me. And I finally got past it.

Last night, I was told by someone that a mutual "friend" of ours was saying some pretty harsh things about me. I was taken aback at first, but then I was reminded of some conversations that she and I'd had a few months ago and I knew that's where it all stemmed from. So I considered the source and let it go. I really wish that person had a good set of balls to come to me herself and tell me face to face. I would definitely respect her more if she did, rather than saying it in private to someone else that's really just gonna run and tell me. But she is a coward that way.

I'm the same way with my book reviews on Amazon. I have mostly gotten great reviews on all of my books, and I appreciate them so much. But there have been a couple of bad ones too. After clicking on the name at the bottom of the review, I was able to easily track them both back to their rightful owners, although they used fake names. LOL.

Anyway, I saw that one was from a relative of a man I dated once who was angry at me for something that had nothing to do with my book. So I considered the source and brushed it off. Another review was from a man who wanted to date me but I turned him down. His inability to cope with being rejected led to what he felt was a scathing review on Amazon. After I clicked the fake name and got the real person, I considered the source and went on about my business. Little did he know that because of his review, book sales went up and some even messaged me and said they bought it to see what he was talking about but ended up loving it. LOL.

I was then reminded of the verse in the Bible that tells that God will take whatever the enemy has meant for our harm and turn it into something for our good. That makes me so happy to know that God has my back.

So if you're being persecuted today in any way whatsoever. If it's fake friends, bad reviews or people in general talking about you behind your back, consider the source and let it all go. Maybe that person is just jealous of you.

One more point, NEVER return hate to your haters. Love them because if you use their jealousy and hatred the right way, it can propel you forward into the life you strive to achieve. In the acknowledgments of my last book, the very last group I thanked were my haters. LOL. It's true. If they hadn't shown me how to be strong and strive even harder in the face of adversity and opposition, then I wouldn't be where I am today. So thank you all!! I really do love you! You've pushed me to succeed. While I hate discussing things such as this, because let's face it, it's all so juvenile, there are times when we must confront it head on and call it what it is. It's childish to be jealous of someone else. Be happy for others when they succeed. I know you'd want them cheering for you if the tables were reveresed.

I told you this blog would end up being a positive one. LOL

Remember to work hard and Dream Big!!

Much love,

Christy