Revenge!!

There's an old saying attributed to Confucius that states: "Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves".

There's no truer statement than that, because in your pursuit to exact revenge on someone else, you, yourself will be taken down as well.

There is sooo much to be said about revenge. I think everything that can be said, has been said, so I won't be uncovering anything new to you, just giving you my viewpoint.

When I hear the word revenge, the first thing that pops into my head is Taylor Swift. LOL

I promise it is!! She is the Queen of Revenge.

It seems as if EVERY hit song of hers is about getting someone back for their actions. She is known for writing lyrics about her ex-boyfriends, her ex-friends or anyone that annoys her, really. So it stands to reason that as huge as her name is in society, she would be the first one I think of when I hear, REVENGE. LOL

There are many sayings and quotes that people use to make themselves feel that it's okay. There is "revenge is a dish best served cold", meaning allow time to go by and then pounce when they don't expect it.

There's also the one about "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned", meaning don't upset your wife or girlfriend or you'll be sorry, lol.

I know I've even uttered the phrase "sipping the sweet nectar of revenge" before when wanting to take matters into my own hands.

But revenge is NEVER the answer. I don't care who sings about it, who writes about it, what celebrity tells you how fun it is. It's never okay to get back at someeone yourself. There have been many times in my life when I have "cut loose" on somone who has hurt me. There have times in my past that I've spoken badly against those that had spoken badly of me. There have been times in my life when I've said things TO someone's face when confronted with seeing them in public, and there have been times when I've acted in an ugly manner with the one finger that is best used as a typing tool, lol.

None of those instances are good, nor are they what God wants us to do or how He wants us to behave. When I did those things I wasn't walking in the love of God and I certainly wasn't displaying any of His characteristics. But I have learned since He transformed my life, He gave me a new mindset as well. It's not that I haven't experienced the troubles because I have, it's just that now I know I don't have to concern myself with "getting back" at people who try to hurt me.

I realize that I've had several blogs in the few weeks dealing with being hurt, revenge or letting things go. They have kind of been about the same subject matter, but when I get emails from various women telling me what they are going through and asking what to do about it all, I feel the need to address it again. My whole goal in life is to offer the same help to others that God gave to me. So, yes, this is another blog about being hurt.

I think this is an area where the enemy wreaks havoc in our lives on a daily basis and if you don't know how to handle it, you'll be like I was and go all out crazy on someone. That's not good. I can't tell you how many times I've been close to having the cops called on me.

I know, I don't seem like that type of person, and I'm really not, but there have been times when I allowed myself to spin out of control. I look back and feel so embarrassed now because I'm truly a sweet person with a good heart who never wants to hurt anyone. I thank God for His mercy and grace and for changing me from the old to the new.

He can do that for you as well if you let Him. If you are experiencing problems with anger, ask God to take it from you. Repent of that and allow Him to change you. I'm not trying to start a war here or upset anyone nor am I trying diminish counseling in any way whatsoever, but I tried that and it wasn't enough for me. I saw a PTSD counselor because of the domestic violence I suffered and did what she told me to do, but it wasn't enough. I do believe that works for some, but I was under conviction of the Holy Spirit and nothing was going to help until I gave my life to God. So sometimes, as much as others try to help you, they can't, you have to go to God Himself.

I want to end with this. No matter who tries to glamorize revenge, no matter how many funny memes you see on social media about it, no matter how many movies you see that satisfies your thirst for it, don't go there. Let God have what belongs to Him. He says in Romans 12:19 plainly to avenge not ourselves, that He will repay.

I don't know about you, but that brings me a level of comfort like nothing else can. Knowing that God Himself is watching over me and won't allow anything to harm me is deeply comforting to me.

Just try it one time and see what happens for you. The next time you are confronted by someone being mean, hurtful, cruel, or gossiping about you, go to God, ask Him for help and stand back while He defends you. You'll find the peace that comes with it is worth more than the few minutes of gratification that comes with running your own mouth like I used to do. That will only get you in more trouble.

I love you all and want you to succeed in all you do.

Remember to work hard and Dream Big!!

Much love,

Christy